To Spank or Not to Spank

Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by peanutpunk, Oct 28, 2007.

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How do you feel about Spanking kids?

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  2. against

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  1. goncalo

    goncalo Level IV

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    Well I don't think it's totally wrong, as along as it doesn't go over some slaps.
    It's not ilegal in Portugal. In fact, I see some young children on the street being slapped every now and then, until they shut up. It's an easy way to teach children that if they do something bad, something bad will happen to them too.

    Things get quite a bit different if you're 13+ though. In my view, children that don't 'know the limits' and didn't have the proper education until that age, they won't learn after. I mean, if you've been always doing something since you were born and no one tells you it's wrong, you'll hardly change it after those years.

    I think it's quite relative though, depending on the personality of the kid. If it stops after you warn it, then alright. If it just won't stop after you warn him, than he deserves other kind of treatment.
    And like micorazonesazul said, it often happens with single mothers or single children. If you have an older brother to kick your muffin everytime you bother him, you'll learn quickly.
     
  2. soccermadness90

    soccermadness90 Level III

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    i think that is depends solely on the child's personality. If the child listens to authorities what need is there for you to spank the child?
    However if the child is stubborn and unwilling to listen then. Spankingis needed to let the clild learn right from wrong.
    But....spanking must be used as the last resort. This means that the parent must have used all the other methods to try to teach the child before considering spanking. After all there is a chinsese saying that says "Hurting the chlid's body will cause hurt on the parents heart." So why would a parent want to spank at all if they have other options.
     
  3. peanutpunk

    peanutpunk Level II

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    ok idk if you know this or not, but im 17... the drinking age in my country is 21, i don't drink, i don't do drugs, and when i do start drinking i won't go over board with it like most idiots do, expecially because i've lost 4 friends to drunk drivers. i never let my friends drink when they are around me. Call me boring idgaf and idk what kind of relationship you have with your mom, but i tell my mom everything, and i mean every single thing, that makes it easier for me not to lie. {She taught me not to lie, by spanking :yup: proud of it too}
     
  4. noncheatercheater

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    It's good to hear you're going to be a responsible drinker, and even that you're responsible now..

    Maybe you don't have anythign to hide from your mom because you haven't done anything you're ashamed of or had something bad happen to you?


    I never told my mom anything becuase she's a big mouth and would tell everyone she talks to and plus, she'll say she'll be supportive and yet, when i go to her for support, she won't be..
     
  5. derrick

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    i would never hit my kid.
     
  6. micorazonesazul

    micorazonesazul Level III

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    You are born with a personality though--[well to some extent you are from genetics] but what I mean is newborns aren't generally defiant, personality IMO or behavior I should say is gathered from what the children think they can pull...they test their parents..if they get away with it once- they continue, if not- they usually cease the activity. Kids don't misbehave if you don't let them.
     
  7. klae17

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    Very good, totally agree. Thats why the kids in the movies and grocery stores keep it up. And the parents do nothing.
     
  8. peanutpunk

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    thx, well, i can see your point. My aunt's a big mouth too, so most of the time i'm playing mom with my cousin.
     
  9. Spawned

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    im for it has long has it doesn't hurt the kid too much ... i mean he gotta learn what he gotta learn but he doesn't have to cause a troma lol
     
  10. Xizavo

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    That was insightful :|

    I believe spanking is wrong. People do believe its a form of discipline but I beg to differ. To me its like child abuse, and no matter how you put it, or how hard you spank the child, its still inflicting harm, which no one deserves. There are other ways to discipline your child and still make sure they grow up with respect. Take away certain privileges and opportunities. The list goes on. But seriously never inflict intentional harm on your child. You may not even notice it, but they can grow up to be frightened of you and other things and can start doing things later on in life that...you don't want to happen.

    My opinion:
    Spanking is wrong
     
  11. noncheatercheater

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    and sometimes you don't even need to hit your kid for them to be terrified of you.. i was terrified of my dad beucase he would threaten me constantly.. it's rediculous...




    i think the next topic should be about if we can spank adults haha.. they can be quite stupid .
     
  12. roboz

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    Spanking! does a kid good!
    Though not bashing or belting.
     
  13. H3nry

    H3nry Level III

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    My thoughts exactly, I did many stupid things as a kind. I was persuaded not to try them again by my dad :) .
    Never did me any harm, I mean, I'm not scared mentally or physically.
     
  14. Xizavo

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    I totally agree with you.
    Parents can threaten there kids to even the scariest threats honestly
    And some of that cursing and swearing doesn't help either.
     
  15. sportsguy1294

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    the kids dont like it. why do it? there are other ways of punishing besides violent behavior.
     
  16. chikorita_S

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    another method is if you do something bad, You're gonna get pulled out of choir/soccer ect.

    but spanking is good too because I say If you think doing something bad is right for you, It might just be painful hence the "might" I am still being spanked though (I am really young mostly like um 9 :9 ) So yeah.
     
  17. SoC

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    Im deeply shocked by these results. read a few pages and people seem media hyped over there decisions and opinions on this subject.

    From my own personal view im STRONGLY against it.
    I was brought up seperately by my mum and dad, and my dad used to spank/slap w,e u call it when i did something wrong, and my mum used other methods such as taking games,grounding,making me do chores.

    At first i listened and was scared of my dad more, but in later years and still now im scared of my mums punishments more.

    To put it simply,
    spanking = SHORT TERM solution with more angry effects if overused.
    Other punishment = Longer term and much better with no side affects.

    So id say illegal spanking is way forward.
     
  18. Pocketmonster

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    Im for spanking because there is A LOT worse than that. Some kids are not fed, beaten, and the n some killed. So no I don't think spanking is bad
     

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  19. Chocolate

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    Against- big time. Since when does hitting or smacking someone, especially a child, teach discipline? It may teach resentment, hate or that's it's okay to take your emotions out on someone but no where does discipline fit in. Most children are actually quite well behaved if they are exposed to a balanced household, school life and diet. Smacking a child does not contribute to any of those.
     
  20. feeeesh

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    i think spanking is ok as long as you do it and have a extreamly good reason cause kids usually wont listen until something bad happens to them like spanking them its right as long as you dont over do it a few light hit till it stings should do anymore than that is wrong