do u tink age is an impt factor in a relationship?

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  1. kelliequek87

    kelliequek87 Level I

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    would age difference be a factor for consideration when ur tinking about going into a relationship w sumone?

    for me its definitely an impt factor. i dun tink i ll accept any guy who's younger than me, cos i tink that guys who are 2-3 years older than me alreadie hav the same level of mentality as me. if were to go out w sumone younger, it would be more of like going out w a younger brother. bsides i tink that when a couple has more than 2 years of age difference, there wld tend to be more friction bcos they would be at different stages of their lives, each wanting different things. for instance, if a girl is 28, and the guy is 25..e girl would be tinking of getting married.. whereas the guy would have jus graduated from university and starting family wld defintely not be at the top of his list. yeah, so personally i tink age is a big factor in a relationship. anione has ani opinions?
     
  2. CoS

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    can you try to talk in more understandable txt language or just type out the words next time??

    it depends what stage in life the couple are at. for example it would not matter to 40+ year old i do not think but it just varies depending on who it is etc
     
  3. surreptitious

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    I have the same mentality as a 14-year old boy, and I haven't been 14 for a long time.
    But I would never, ever, ever get in a relationship with one EVER. Aside from the illegality of the situation, it's just icky.
    I don't think that people in the same age group necessarily have the same goals at ALL. Everyone's different.
    But up until this year, I was so paranoid about the age factor that if I found out that an actor was even a day younger than me, I couldn't even think that he was cute. And that says nothing of real life.
    Now I'm a little more relaxed, but younger guys = not allowed. There's a nine-year age difference between my parents, though, so I'm pretty open to it for other people. Just not as a personal choice.
     
  4. CoS

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    t's just icky

    that does say something about ur mental age :p

    no you have a fair point i suppose and everybody is entitled to an opinion :p
     
  5. surreptitious

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    Boys are icky. It's in the princess handbook.

    (And believe me or not, my use of the word ick was an ironic gesture to highlight and emphasize my point.)

    But seriously, that age difference would be inadmissable in my life. I don't even think that I can count that high - I can't even tell you what comes after three.



    hehe
     
  6. nikkin

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    Age is a very important factor when you are young. Everyones mentality and maturity is at a very critical stage during teenage years; a 16 year old dating a 21 year old would not work because their two priorities and views on life are so different. A 23 year old dating a 30 year old would usually be fine however...by that time maturity should be equal.
     
  7. incendia

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    I've dated someone only 10 or so years younger than my own parents and I really didn't feel comfortable about it... like, I would've never introduced them to him.

    His age also isn't the reason we didn't continue dating though, it was the points we were at in our lives and I think a lot of people are at different points including views on kids, marriage, etc at many different points in their lives.

    I've also tried dating someone 20yo while I'm 25 and that didn't work either, again, not due to age but different points in our lives and how we have different wants and needs. I also felt like a cradle robber, legal or not... :)
     
  8. ninjitzumaster

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    I personally have never really been comfortable dating anyone who is more than 2 or so years outside of my age range. It just doesnt feel right to me. But I have seen several relationships work where the couples were 6+ years apart. I suppose it just depends on what each individual wants and needs at that point in their relationship/life.
     
  9. invaderzimmeh

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    I've dated only one guy younger than me, and all the rest have been 1-1.5 years older than me. For me, it's the maturity level. The age gap doesnt matter much as long as it's not a 35 yr old with an 18 year old... That's where I draw my personal line.
     
  10. Liwi

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    I think that the older you get, the less important age is. When you're a teenager, it matters a lot if they're the same age as you, but when you're an adult, not so much.
     
  11. candcain

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    As long as you're not doing some kind of illegal dating, it shouldn't matter. My personal preference is for someone who I can talk to for more that 10 minutes and not be bored out of my mind or just stare at awkwardly. Now if this person so happens to be 6 years older than I am, I don't think I would mind much.
     
  12. Liwi

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    You wouldn't mind if they were 6 years older? I guess it's not so bad if you're a girl and the guy is older, but the other way around is too weird. I wouldn't date a girl six years older than me.
     
  13. bladeoftalwar

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    age is pretty important in the teens. a few years can mean a lot in terms of maturity and experience

    when you're past like 30 though, a few years doesn't mean a thing
     
  14. woooot

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    Age is only a huge factor in the early years of one's life, say from highschool ----> after college.
    if one person is in college and one is in high school, there would be some pretty big problems
     
  15. weldn

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    Age is usually am important factor for everybody's life,
    but not always.
    My opinion is, if someone younger than me (even 10 yr younger or so) is really good at something i don't understand,
    i would have no trouble asking him/her nice about that and also making friends.
    However, he/she has to be mature & reasonable enough, or else i won't even bother that person.
     
  16. KeKNoRRiS

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    I don't care about age, as long as their mental age is about equal as mine.. I would not be able to be in a relationship with a girl who keeps talking about how their friend kissed this boy on the cheeck or whatever...

    Plus I don't want to have to wait ages to take steps in a relationship (kissing, sex, vacations, etc.)
     
  17. SinkingThoughts

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    Errr, awkward question to answer. My mind says yes, my body says NNOOOOO xD
     
  18. krilas

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    I would mind a huge age gap, but I don't think I'd mind whether the opposite gender is younger or older than me. In the first place, isn't it a stereotype that guys should be older than females in a relationship or at least be of the same age, but never younger? A relationship is how two people relates to each other, if they can relate to each other perfectly fine because of their understanding for each other, then age wouldn't matter at all.
     
  19. Soleil56

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    To each their own. Its about personal preference.

    So far Ive dated guys that have all been 4 years older then me, all wanting more of a serious relationship. I think it scares me, I just want to have fun right now.

    Right now Im interested in a younger guy whos 19. Very different from my ex's haha. Lets see how this goes.