what are your views on marriage i feel that a lot of marriages are breaking up these days but when i look back most people were forced into marriage and stuck in them becuase they felt ashamed to leave, but that also leads on to respect is it that people just dont respect each other enough to make a long lasting marriage, or are they just being selfish and giving marriage a bad name
views: people fall in love people get married and some fall out of love, its not getting a bad name some people just end up not working out end of story thats my view
I think that marriage is about two people (It doesn't matter what gender they are) love each other and can't live with out each other with out feeling sad. Two halves of one whole also sums it up for me, lol.
I agree with the falling in and out of love. It's so rare to find love that lasts forever. Too rare for me to bother with marriage. x)
its out of control... that's my view. people think they're in love, but they aren't able to live together and work together... People jump into marriage too fast some times... I know i'll look and when i think i find the right one i'll try, but... i'll always do my best to make sure they're the right one first
Marriage is a useful institution for to people who want to spent their life together. I think it is good.. everyone who wants it can have it and if you don't just don't marry.
People are taking marriage too lightly these days, and realize that it is much more of a commitment than they originally thought. People think they can handle living with eachother forever, when really they can't. In my opinion, there are too many people rushing marriage these days.
I think Marriage is very imprortant in life, but you have to make sure you find the right person, and like what everyone else has said you shouldn't rush into things. I mean I have lived with my Fience for 6 months now, you don't have to get engaged then married that fast!
I see nothing wrong with marriage. If you want to waste the money on a huge ceremony and pretty things etc, then do it. It's your money and your choice, and if you want to "fall out of love" and divorce, well that's your problem. >_> I'm going to get married one day, I'm going to waste a shitload of money on it and hopefully it lasts - if not, I'll repeat the process.
I personally don't want to get married. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and I know she wants to at some point. And I will just to make her happy.
People are a LOT less conservative nowadays. The fact that most marriages from the generation of the last era (ie. 60-80 year olds) are more successful than current marriages is that that generation maintained a lot of the conservative values about divorce, etc that held them together for so long. Another reason is, at least in Australia, we've had changes in legislation - 1975 if memory serves. You used to have to prove who was at fault for the marriage being ruined to obtain a successful divorce, and that was such a painful process that many just chose to stay together to avoid it. With that gone, the past 30 years has seen a lot more divorces than before - for obvious reasons.
My view is that marriage, if the two people can take it honestly and seriously, is the base for a healthy society. If Mommy and Daddy love and respect each other and nurture the kids, then the kids will take on these traits and pass them on, etc., to make a better world for everyone to live in. However, this doesn't happen as often as it should (A.K.A 100% of the time). So, I think that marriage is kind of messing up society in that Mommy and Daddy fight in front of the kids, teaching them violence, sometimes resulting them being injured, and then divorce, emotionally scarring the children forever. A major cause of why people becoming killers is because they had a dysfunctional childhood.
I agree that a healthy family can be key to child development. However, it is not always necassary. I still vote that we weren't supposed to be monogomous!
I believe that people are getting married these days for the WRONG reasons. That is why the divorce rate is so high. Many couples are getting married for looks. Then when they get in their 40s their husbands or wives cheat on them and it ends in divorce. This is why you should marry for who the person is, not how hot they are. Some couples are marrying because they have a kid or kids. This is wrong too because you will eventually if not already not be in love with the person, fight all the time..eventually cheat and 10-20 years down the road realize you have been unhappy for so long and boom, another divorce. Also, I think a lot of couples could fix their marriage if they went about it in a mature way, and truley love eachother. If you are in true love, you won't fall out of it if you work your problems out properly.
I don't think it's so much that people are "falling out of love" as it is other reasons. Divorce is way more acceptable now than it was before. It used to be that people thought something was wrong with you if you got divorced or something. Marriage was also less based on personal feeling in the past. Women used to be more dependent on men so it wasn't like they could just up and leave on a whim.
People definitely rush into marriage these days. Although this is coming from a 20year old girl with a husband But he was my first boyfriend when I was 13 and we've been together ever since so I'd say 6years and running we're pretty safe. People definitely get the definition of love mixed up alot and rush into things that don't always work out, but hey I guess you don't know if it'll work until you try it.
Your concern is guanine & as it based on observations so no one could be dare to deny this fact that the family arrangements & bondings distorts & tense now a days. But no other way or solution to it but try to harmonize our attitude & try to reform & amends our attitudes regarding social values. Please do not gravedig, this topic has been inactive for several months
I think people definitely rush into marriage, i think people are so desperate to live the fairytale these days.