I wanted to touch on this very sensitive subject that was brought up by my friend. Every day, it seems as though there are more crimes done toward females, and it's like our society influencing it. I mean, there are more and more things popping up about it. I mean, it's not much of a debate unless someone disagrees this is not right. I mean like domestic violence, raping: those things are nasty and cruel. I really think this is a major problem, and that there should be more education about how to defend yourself...I've been in a minor one, and it was just little things though, nothing THAT big. Thank goodness she defended herself, some are too scared or shocked by the situation, and it really sucks I want to know what you guys and girls think about it...
Well, first of all, I think that, just like you, it is really nasty and cruel. I don't even get why people do it. I mean, everybody can have a chance on this little planet. Anyways, I think there should be a bigger sentence for the persons doing those acts. And, as you said, I think that there should be an obligatory lesson at school, around Grade 8 on how to react in a situation like that.
The irony that you bring this up... I have a friend's friend who is going through this now... Her ex left a big huge bruise on her cheek and then she almost let him get away with it... and then it happened again 2 days later... He choked her and told the 18 month old "do you want to watch your mommy died." That time my friend finally talked her into calling the cops, but the ex's parents bailed the son out. He threaten to kill her through a text message. She almost let him go again thinking it wasn't worth putting the child's father in jail... Then the next day she got into a car accident and this is still currently going on... She doesn't want to press charges... Great topic... Just thought I would share that with anyone interested in thinking that it doesn't happen often...
I personally think female abuse happens because of a person's family background, maybe the female abuser wasn't raised right or grew up in a broken family.
It sometimes happens when you're with the wrong person at the wrong time. It's so sad though...I mean, guys don't need to do this. Yeah, you might be mad at your gf or something, but...
Yea, i hate how any one subjects themselves to a course of domestic violence. I do think that part of it is being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I do not tolerate the behavior at all. The laws need to be more strict for this type of stuff.
Lol, the laws are strict enough, just probably the reinforcement and education behind needs some more attention. Yeah, we also spoke about this in class, and it's just hidden truths. Some people just hide it because they think they are "weak". Linked to child abuse too.
You guys seem to ignore the fact that a lot of the time the female brings much of this unto herself... If you play with fire, you're bound to get burned. Don't hang around sketchy people and you'll decrease the risk of danger immensely. Make positive friends who can help you out and protect you when needed. I'm not saying its not the criminal's fault (he/she should be punished accordingly) but stuff like this is a problem because people don't take precautions.
Wow, you seriously believe that? That's... both sad and scary. Especially since I think deep down a lot of people feel this way. But of course people seem to choose to ignore that women are most often abused by someone they're close to in some way, someone they trust. But no, too many people want to believe that deep down, these women probably deserved it. Victim blaming helps no one. At all. It doesn't help the person who was abused, and it doesn't help the abuser confront their problem. We all have the ability to make choices, and when someone chooses to abuse another person for whatever reason, they should be held completely accountable for their actions.
That doesn't make a (significant) difference... Well yeah, I posted it... Sure, people may be abused by people they're close to. But you don't get perfectly nice guys all of a sudden start beating you. You were probably dating some big guy with 10 tattoos and 30 cans of beer in the fridge. A person chooses the people they're close to and you're just asking for trouble if you don't choose wisely. I'm generalizing here and its true that many times the victim has done nothing to bring harm unto themselves. And yes, in all cases abusers should be punished.
I totally agree with you, Zer0 though. Yeah, sometimes the victim isn't taking the proper precautions. But as my guidance counselor said, there's no law that you have to lock your car doors or date a 100% perfect guy, but there are laws that you can't steal and hit girls/rape . But, the victim didn't think to take easy precautions that would've saved them a lot of trouble...so yeah, I see what you are saying totally
I blame both the female and the abusive person most of the time. It depends on the story. My dad was emotionally and physically abusive the whole time i was growing up. He would hit me, my mom, and my two brothers if we werent doing things right or he was frustrated with us. Even thoe i tried getting outta situations with him they always seemed unavoidable and wasnt much i could do as a kid. School councilors and stuff wouldnt believe me cause bruises and stuff didnt appear that bad. I always tried to have positive friends but ive also been beat up by friends who were great to me for years and then one day they just hit/choke me. So i believe it depends on what the situation is. Sure they could be avoidable. But really people shouldnt even think to rape ppl to begin with.
You can't really avoid it. The western world, about 25% of population is on anti-psychotic drugs. Estimated is 50% of population is more or less "psycho". Probably one of your friends/family is psycho (aka "mentally unstable") in one way or another and you know who it is? In US over 90% believe in invisible creatures like God.
I agree with Zero, a lot of it is brought on upon themselves. I've been in two abusive relationships that were clearly my fault because I stuck around in them, though that's not to say that abuse should be tolerated. It's not right but it happens and it's going to keep happening.
Remember too there is more then one type of abuse, you mostly are talking about physical abuse when usually there is more mental abuse which can be just as bad as times. Regardless if some say that some women "bring it upon themselves" that two wrongs doesn't make a right and even if a feamle is being a total bitch like most of us can there is no reason for her to be abused ... eh just my opinion
One thing that amazes me is that it's always FEMALE abuse, but no one ever even considers females could be abusing their male partner.
I don't think it's as much as it is a growing problem than it is a problem that people are being more aware of
Its not all the guys fault, Its in our DNA to hit out when we feel threatend cant cope with a sittuation. My girlfriend for example never lets me leave when we have an arguement all i want to do is calm down and go for a walk but she never lets me and keeps on going on and on i have to move her out of the way i admit i come close but thats cos i cant get out