Is "harmless" online flirting, cheating?

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  1. Kyas

    Kyas Level I

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    I think it depends on the person, i'm quite naturally flirted but i dont mean anything by it, whereas some people are noy naturally flirty and you can easily tell with them if its not harmless
     
  2. Yakooza

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    Of course it is. Why does it matter if your flirting with someone over the internet or in real life?

    The intention is the same
     
  3. Tycho

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    It's harmless until the person you're flirting with needs to have a seat right over there.
     
  4. arcrutus

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    I know one thing for sure, whether or not I think it's harmless, if my girlfriend ever caught me flirting online a shit fit would promptly be thrown. And I would promptly be thrown out. So don't do it; it's silly anyway in my opinion. Flirting with a dreamt up personality never ends well for anyone.
     
  5. lando

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    Its obvious if you are just kidding around and trying to be funny. That could be understandable (except for the jealous type). Though if you have intentions that are anymore than making that person a friend then it would considered cheating for me. Jealousy can make people go crazy, if all he or she is doing is making someone laugh its ok. He/She is going out with you isn't he/she?
     
  6. dreamlorde

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    Here's an idea - when asking if something is right or wrong in a relationship, ask whether or not it would be right or wrong to do it right in front of your other half.
     
  7. Imaginasian

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    I believe it IS cheating, because that's intimacy you're giving to another person outside your relationship.
     
  8. singapore

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    this is good..

    hmm..but some form of flirting is almost bound to happen during a conversation with the opposite sex..i was kinda a "flirty" person before i met my gf..

    of coz different people will consider flirting differently..but IMO, if you are trying to impress the other person, that is a definite nono because that would be crossing the "line"..be it Online or in Real Life..
     
  9. Hally

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    So um, funny story.

    I was dating this girl named brittany for like a bazillion years. Okay not really, but a long time.


    Then I was on this site. This one. Neofriends.net. I met this awesome girl, rachel, over the forums/PM, she liked the same kind of music I did, lived fairly close (by internet standards) she seemed really cool. I was really interested in texting her and stuff. We were just friends, since we'd never met, but I was more interested in talking to her than Brittany.

    So then about a month later, Brittany dumped me. I was sad :(

    Then Rachel came to visit a few weeks after. And one thing lead to another :) I was happy. I made her my girlfriend lol.

    So um, yeah... I wouldn't consider it cheating, but it's not good for the relationship, having someone you flirt with online.
     
  10. Badge

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    Everyone Flirts it just depends on how *In - Depth* It is/goes..

    But then again i would not be very happy at all if i found my boyfriend flirting over the net but i wouldn't get too stressed.
     
  11. Grimwolf08

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    IMO, flirting is flirting. It doesn't matter whether or not you plan to act on it. The act of flirting is just the first step to full blown cheating, because if you think it's okay to do it "harmlessly" over the net or phone, then eventually it'll seem okay to do it in person, and even in a situation where cheating will likely occur.
     
  12. warror135

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    my ex-g/f was like that, she used to flirt with so many guys online, i know she was only playing around, it wasnt anything serious, but most of the guys got the wrong impression and they thought she was being serious, and sometimes yeah it kinda pissed me off bc she would sometimes take it a little too far, i guess a little bit is alright just some people take it waay to far
     
  13. Code

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    If you already have a bf/gf, i don't really agree in flirting with someone else online. unless ur like.Before you flirt you tell the other person oh im already taken, im flirting just for fun(which is awkward)

    If you're not taken, the flirting online is fine lol, as long as you make sure s/he isn't a 40 year old stalker tho claims they are 16.
     
  14. Miss_Bargara

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    if you already say it is 'harmless' why ask?

    I think it means that you know it isn't that harmless.
     
  15. Brad

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    I don't think online is flirting is that serious unless you actually get that person's number or address and meet up somewhere. But you should never flirt with anyone in any form anyway.
     
  16. zikaroo

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    Nothing wrong with online flirting we've all done it from time to time
     
  17. Stinky

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    I've never done it, but I'd say its okay to some extent..
     
  18. HeyLisa

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    I'd say for online flirting the same rules apply as for RL flirting. A little bit is okay, but don't take it too far.
     
  19. Dora

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    For some people it's okay, but i wouldn't do it myself it's wrong if your in a relationship, your other half my get the wrong idea and it will end in disaterous results.
     
  20. rienei

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    i think its kinda cheating although it feels nice to hav + 1 guy to like and care for you. =x
     
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