Dating Married People

Okay, so how evil is it on a scale of 1-10 to knowingly date a married man or woman? Or is it not your fault that he/she decided to be a cheating asshat?

My friend just spilled the beans about her "boyfriend" who is married with two young kids, and I kind of hate her now. Like, really??? People do this and think it's okay??!


WTH?

 

If anyone's mean, it's him. And yeah, love is blind. But I don't really get why she wants to be with him and doesn't command him to get a divorce right away. Or tell him she won't be with him until he figures out what he wants. Peronally, I wouldn't ever wanna be with a man who was cheating. Espicially when he has two kids. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
But um, she's not really the meanie unles she knows his wife, I'd say

 

Your friend is likely to get hurt in the future, these relationships tend to be volatile and just as fleeting.

 

I think it's wrong to knowingly date someone that's married.

I know one couple (girl was married, guy dated) before I found out that she was married and it just changed my whole perspective of them. :/
I mean they were the nicest people but it was just -wrong- to me :/

 

I personally think is wrong. However, id they are like, madly in love, cant live without each other, fine. o-o

I've seen real life situation before, I don't agree with it, but sometimes, there are reasons.

 

Both people are in the wrong. If you so desperately want to be together, then the married person needs to leave their spouse. Dating a married person (who isn't officially seperated and pending a divorce) is completely wrong no matter how 'blind' love is.

 

Ugh its horrible. My dad cheated on my mom twice. Im the only child in my family that knows. Messed me up pretty badly considering the second time was just a couple summers ago. I practically hated him. I wouldn't harm another person like that.

 

Personally I don't think I could date a woman who was married to another man, but then again I've never been in a situation where I became involved with one. I can say that I would try to not get involved though..

 

I 100% agree with you, my friend did this and i told him straight up if he doesn't end it we aren't friends anymore

oh cool, 1000 posts :O

 

So... I've done it.
At first I didn't know he was married. He was 35 years older than me (yes, I've always been too much of a Lolita for my own good), with two sons around my age, and, the cherry on top, he was my professor.
It was the most intense relationship I've ever had and when he finally told me he was married, it was too late. We were already too envolved.
So when I found out, I broke up with him. But a couple of days later he came to my apartment with a single white rose and he kneeled down at my doorstep and started crying like a little baby... I was too weak to be strong...
On my defense, his marriage was already falling apart. They slept in separate bedrooms and barely talked to each other. They were together only for the sake of his old father, who was too religious and too sick to endure his son's divorce.
You can flame me, but I don't regret it at all. It was the best 2 years of my life.

Yeah, I could write a book...

 

I have a friend who dated the married guy, it really screwed her up. She was convinced that he would leave his wife and kid; he didn't. I think it's bad from both sides, but it is generally the married person who is at fault, and the others who get hurt the most.

 

I've turned down three hot women in my life that I knew were married. I have this problem where I need to feel alright with myself when I go to bed at night. But there are no benefits from being this way, and I'm usually jealous of people who go through life conscience-free; it clearly makes things a lot easier. So I have to do what works for me, but I'd feel like a hypocrite to dog out the multitudes of cheaters out there.

Walter Lee Younger, A Raisin in the Sun -

You always asking me to see life as it is.

I laid in there on my back today, and I saw life just like it is.

He who gets and he who don't get.

It's all divided up between the takers and the tooken.

And some of us are always being tooken.

People like Willie never get tooken.

You know why the rest of us do? Because we are mixed up.

Always looking for the right and wrong of things.

We worry and cry and stay up nights...

...trying to figure out what's right, what's wrong...

...while the takers are out there, just operating.

Taking and taking.

 

I think it's his/her fault he/she decided to cheat their wife/husband but at the same time is the person fault for dating that kind of person. I think it's a balanced situation so no need to get unbalanced for this kind of stuff :lol:

 

i think that is wrong, but we still dont know the whole story behind this. Some people dont know that they were married until they are too deep into the relationship.

 

I think that both parties are wrong, but mostly the married person, a friend of mine knowingly dated a married man with childeren and I really hated that, it destroyed his marriage and she doesn't even remember his name anymore.

 

Dating someone who you know is married is wrong in my opinion. You're basically helping destroy somebody else's relationship.

 

Technically, i think it is totally wrong, it's not normal. Tbh as liesjuh said you are helping to destroy someones love and happiness and end there relationship they have gained.

 

i hate those people who purposely date a married man esp with children. What if tt man/woman decides to divroce and the kids will suffer....big time.