Do you ever regret things?

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  1. rarehunternick

    rarehunternick Level II

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    Their have been numerous things that i regret since freshmen year. But one of i really regret and wish i could go back into the past and actually enjoyed it. It involved a trip somewhere and it was a student gathering and we were just kicking it in our "place of staying" and i had the chance to dance with like 10 girls. And it was a student retreat. One of them asked me to dance with them and i sort of refused cause truly i don't know how to dance. But now that i look back on it...i really do regret it. I also regret some other things as well. Maybe i'll share those later.
     
  2. hardbread

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    Of course!
    i could go back into the past and actually enjoyed it.


    Yes, most of us wished that we can go back into the past to correct things and many more.
    But like they say, regrets are for fools. Means I'm one too. heh
     
  3. i.need.an.aber

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    I regret I missed a Magical Red Krawk Plushie for 18k. I have no life. :lol: j/k I regret lots of things, in fact most of the things Ive done in the past... like not getting my first kiss when I could in the fourth grade (this girl totally fell for me)
     
  4. Virre

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    Not really. The only things I don't do are those that I really don't want to, other than that I try to do as much as I can.
    The things I have chosen to do or not to do has made me the person I am today, and I see no reason to regret that. =)
     
  5. vinceraf

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    Yes, a lot to regret...
    I'm really shy, and for this I've lost so many opportunities... in love matter, school, family and especially friendships =(
    But the problem is that if I returned in the past, maybe I'd do the same errors!
    The next thing that I'm totally sure I'll regret, is the university's choice! I've choosen engineering but I hate maths °°"
     
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    I'm pretty sure we all regret things, it doesn't have to be big. Some people regret things they have done, like getting smash drunk at a party last night, with the hangover causing regret. Or people could feel regret for some things they didn't do, like not study for that test. Generally I think that regrets inspire you to make better decisions, but if you keep on dwelling on regret, I don't think it's going to get you anywhere.
    As for me, I regret buying shares the week before the stock market crashed! I've lost a couple of thousand. Real money, not the neopets stockmarket...which is .... very unrealistic.
    But yeah, i'm not gonna dwell on that loss. I haven't sold them. I have hope that the share price will rise!
    And maybe I should have had toast instead of cereal for breakfast....
     
  7. glitch245

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    Do i regret things? on occasion. But i try to live my life without regret. Make choices i think are right and if they weren't...use it as a learning experience. If you let yourself regret in life...you won't get anywhere....at least that is my philosophy.
     
  8. bladeoftalwar

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    i'm quite impulsive and i do a lot of things without second thought

    so i don't have any major regrets that i can remember :)
     
  9. rarehunternick

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    wow...i wish i could move forward some, but something is holding me back. And i don't know what it it. I don't know if it is things i regret or just afraid for change. I really don't know what it is really.

    Something i sort of regret, but was not my entire fault, was when i played ice hockey two years or 3 years ago, the team i was on was playing in a championship game, the night before we were playing the same team we were playing in the championships i did really well against. But that day we lost to that team because the coach wouldn't put me in and i knew we could have won. When their was 7mins left of the third i was finally put in...let nothing go by me but we still lost cause we were getting penalties causing a 5-3 for the entire 7mins. After that, i felt ashamed. I know it wasn't my fault but it just hurt me because i was the goalie of the last 7mins and the team wasn't really trying for me when i was out there. So after the season ended...i went into slump. Didn't play for like 2 years. Now i'm back...trying to regain the talents that i have lost and made little success but still working on it.
     
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    I know about fear of moving forward. I spent years regretting everything and was afraid of change and the fact that i coud mess it up again. But slowly i realised something...sitting back wasn't helping me any...i needed to step forward in life and i sucked up the nervousness. I tried to better myself. Not saying im not scared from time to time...i just try to do what i think is right.

    It really wasn't your fault, and i believe time will be a good friend in helping you move on my friend.
     
  11. avblue

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    My answer is kind of a mix of both of these. I both regret and don't regret things in the past. I don't regret them because they've made me the person that I am today...but at the same time, there are a few things I'm sure couldn't have hurt if I had just done them when I had the chance (such as letting my friend ask my crush to dance with me at our 8th grade dance... and introducing myself to this other guy I was interested in. I kind of made up for that mistake a couple years later, though, when I sent another guy an anonymous Valentine in school and met him in the cafeteria. Never spoke to him again after that, though. :p) And like vinceraf, I'm very shy, so that's a reason I've missed out on some opportunities as well. Too nervous! :( So Vinceraf, you're not the only one!

    Anyway, I don't know, I kind of go with the mentality that whatever's meant to happen, will happen...and whatever doesn't, didn't for a reason. Maybe the things that I didn't do back then would have had a bad outcome... and the ones that I did do kind of made me a stronger person. I just try to think positively. :p
     
  12. fivedrinksin

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    haha... i'm the exact same way, so i guess that makes three of us. i remember being a social butterfly 'til fifth grade, but i guess moving to a new school (i went from a private school to a public one) where everyone already knew each other traumatized me a bit. my shyness kinda gets in my way and causes me to let a lot of opportunities slip by that sometimes i wish i hadn't. normally i don't worry about anything huge, though - just small things, like wishing i'd gone to a party with my friends when i hear them talking about how fun it was the next day.

    i try not to wholeheartedly regret anything, and especially not for a long period of time. for two reason, really: one, because i know i won't have the chance to go back and change anything... there's no point in worrying about it, and two, because i fear that if i did have the chance to go back and try to remedy the mistakes i might have made before, i would not find myself in the situation that i am in today. personally, i'm quite happy. even if the past might have hurt some, the mistakes i've made and the friends i DID choose to meet have helped mold me into the person i am currently.
     
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    I regret that I blew my freshman year in college and partied too much for nothing, and lost a lot of good friends.
     
  14. rarehunternick

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    yeah...i'm too am shy. I mean i just can't seem to get over the things that i missed and how to improve my life right now. No idea what to do. Like i think i also have another problem besides my regrets and that is not being able to follow up with what i tell my parents. Now, i don't know if some of these past events are getting in my way or that i do struggle withsomething else...but i don't know what it is
     
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    well everyone regrets stuff somepoint in there life.its just how you deal with it i guess that differs you from other people

    the one thing i regret most in life was when i did nothing to prevent my ex turning into a utterly pathetic ho :)
     
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    That kinda stuff can be hard to prevent without ending up sounding like a total jerk.
     
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    Not read the thread well ... because im cool and dont need to.

    Ive always gone by the principle that you should never regret anything
    always see the positive side and learn from ur mistakes.
    This has worked, and ive always moaned at people regretting things (serious things, not dancing with girls xD altho thats still understandable) and they said i never understood.
    Turns out they were right.
    Regret Two major things now :/ Few people know these who speak to me frequently, but i shall not discuss them publicly.

    Ofcourse everyone "regrets" lil things such as not kissing the girl when the moment was right cos of nerves, or not asking a girl out. :p
    Whats life without thinking of going back and changing everything xD
     
  18. Mr Awesome

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    I know this and are regretting this exact thing everyday... you know about this one SoC. I do regret things when i try to do something awesome when im playing some kind of sport and i completely screw it up and look like a total CAKEwit.
     
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    Take it you didnt get around to it? :/
    gone past the chance now and into the "just friends" boundary? :(
    still got time to take the chance though if your still talking. if she's the one im thinking. id be shooting myself xD Take risks B) and blame the booze afterwards if u make a cake of urself :p
     
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    Havn't got around to it no... The "right" time has never popped up unforunately :( It will come though... We're in the "better than friends" part. The part before you start actually going out, except we've been in that part for a good 2 months o_O
     
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