Ugh, lately, I've been feeling kinda depressed and down. I'll kinda break it down: Dad: Well, there is like absolutely no communication with my dad because whenever we talk, it's like arguments . He's mad at me because I won't do something that's hell easy on the computer (typing, editing a template-type stuff), but it takes a while. I used to do it, but he never thanks me or anything, so it's like I'm basically doing nothing for him. I mean, if I don't do it, he gets mad at me for even touching the computer. Now, I really can't use the computer unless it's for homework. He's now like all pissed, and he just makes me do chores, practice 50 hours of piano, and sit in my room, bored. Oh, and to add on to his anger, I caught him doing several things on the computer that I would rather not talk about (personal). Mom: My mom, has also gotten really angry at me, but she's also mad at my dad for being pissed at me. My mom is always yelling at me for my eating health-wise and piano. Well, for health-wise, she gets mad for eating unhealthy stuff (basically by comparing to my sister's vegetable-diet). As for the piano, it's like she thinks it's my life and it's the thing my dad's always using against me now. She won't let me do any sports, not even basketball, definitely NOT football, anything that "endangers" my hands (piano). To sum my parents up: No computer, only piano (2-3 hours practice per day), no basketball/football team (I don't like playing outside with my dad anymore because he's all mad at me), stay in my room is ok, eating must be 100% healthy, I don't have any gaming consoles. The only available is homework (that's how I get on the computer -- being canceled right now), piano, stay in my room, listen to the radio (MP3 confiscated). Oh, and they can't take any criticism or anything that differs from what they think. I honestly didn't do anything bad, it's just my parents are in a bad mood, mad at me and at each other. Sister: Hmm, my sister, the good person in the family. I mean, I can match her grades but she's all goodie-good and stuff. My dad like loves her, but my mom doesn't really monitor her like a criminal like me . She's a very quiet person at home so she never really cares about my problems either -- basically have nobody to talk to. Racist Royal-ish person: Racist guy that's all full of himself. Beat him up :X: Unfortunately, he influences the coaches at our school a lot (you can probably guess...why it's bad). Other stuff: To add on, gf problem too...leave it at that. I did terrible explaining -- sounds stupid So, I'm just kinda asking for some advice/suggestions of any kind to help. I hope my typing is clear That probably means I won't be active much on the forum
Aww lightning cheer up hunnie XD I know we havnt talked much since im a Newb here lol.. BUT... My personal opinion, charish your parents. And be happy that these are you only problems. My father is a dead beat, an my mother is addicted to some serious drugs. My advice. TALK. or atleast try. I know sometimes it can be hard, especially if your parent(s) keep yelling and wont "hear" you. Or maybe try writing them a letter or an email? Let them know you apprecaite there "love and concern" but your not happy. If thats all they wanted was to make you happy there deffintily arnt doing a good job. Thank them for pushing the paino on you and tell them when your older you'll really appreciate it, but right youd like to be like other teens and play some other sports. Do something other then playing the paino for 3 hours stright. Your sister... i have 5 be happy you only have one LOL no, Maybe you could ask her for advice... maybe she just doesnt know or is un-aware of the problems your having at home. She might even be able to help you talk to your parents if they "favor" her more (sorry, i know its not a very nice word) For you g/f.. causing to many problems? Stressing you out? Dump her then! You love her? Just .... SAY SORRY. Who cares whos wrong and whos right. For your Racial Royal-ish Guy... i cant say anything cuz i dont really know what your getting at. If he was raciest and saying rude stuff Good for you for beating his arce XD Dont give up, it'll get better. Eventually you can move out and control your own life (just remember... thats not always better though) *hugs*
Do the template-type stuff!! Make your parents happy (and well if not happy....at least not angry). Sometimes parents just expect you to do stuff like that without thanks (my dad's kinda like that too) and the thing is...you should. I mean....they're the ones who are raising you and paying for all your stuff (a few chores seem like an easy exchange). And it makes your life way easy to keep your parents content. Plus if you do it...you can always sneak in some internet time. eating healthy is win but just...I guess you should explain to her that...just not always but yeah....ughhh...asian parents and piano....XD Do you like piano? I think that's pretty important. Back when I still played...I used to practice like....5-8 hours on weekends and 2-4 on weekdays (plus like 3-4 hours of lessons/week)...and I didn't really like it that much.... But I did it. Like I said above....life is much easier when you keep your parents happy. When I was your age...I didn't like it much either. But when I got older, I started enjoying it much, much more. I don't play anymore...and I really do miss it. So yeah...do you like it?...even remotely? If so...practice. If not...you should probably just quit (I mean...if you really hate it...it's kinda just a waste of time no? And no..."it's for college" or whatnot is not an answer if that's what your parents think. No college cares about that unless you're like....one of the best in the country (meaning...national/international competitions)) oooh that is so false... Do you give them attitude?...because parents hate that soooo much...if not....then maybe it's some external factor that's causing them to be angry? In any case...perhaps you should talk with them? Awwww....you're not close to your sister? Just because she's quiet doesn't care. ooh and as for the internet stuff? just say you're doing homework that's what I always did
I'm doing homework right now! I do homework for like 3 hours a day, all on the computer! Even in the summer! Roflmao really though, I feel your pain. I don't know if it'll work for your parents, but I strike deals with mine. If I want to go out and my dad's being a pain, I'll say something like, "If I do a whole set of a practice SAT today, can I go to Nick's tonight and stay out til 12?" Usually he'll assent to some degree- I have to finish before I go out, and I can only stay otu til whenever, or something. Try asking your mom if you can play baseball/football whatever on the condition that you still practice x amount each day. Remind her that football or whatever only lasts one season. If you're doing baseball, the season's only about 2 or 3 months long. Anyways, I'm sure your hands aren't at risk. Most of my guy friends play football and/or wrestle and their hands are fine, lol. On a side note, I used to play piano xD I never practiced, except for, literally, 15 min before my lesson. Hahaha. Oh, and do the thing for your Dad. He's probably going to get mad anyways, but ask him NICELY and RESPECTFULLY if you can teach him how to do it. Don't say because it's a pain, tell him that if he knows how to do it himself he'll have more freedom over the template and can make changes faster.
Wow, thanks guys! Yeah, it's getting better, but my mom did get pretty mad this morning :X:. Dad's ok, he was kinda happy when I asked him to kinda join me outside for basketball As for piano, I am I guess 'good' at it - I have concerts and international competitions, so I mean, it's not really normal for most kids. I'm surprised by actually how many people played piano here. Yeah, anyways, I'm in a better mood today, just talked to my friends so... EDIT: I need +rep limit for me to be removed XD, too many people to remember to rep