I NEED RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. GOGOGO

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  1. Megs

    Megs Level III

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    OKAY SO.
    I was volunteering at this festival thing downtown, and I was hanging out with this one guy all weekend.
    He's really fucking awesome and we were having a great time, but then he started getting all flirty and shit. We even kissed.
    BUT NO THATS NOT THE POINT.
    The point is that I JUST found out that he had a girlfriend. And he broke up with her yesterday (AFTER TWO FUCKING YEARS) because of me.

    So needless to say I feel terrible. Because I've been exactly through what this girl is going through.
    I only found out because she inboxed me on facebook. (Her name is Meaghan, different spelling of my name.)

    Meaghan
    Have fun with (REMOVED NAME SO JOHN CANT CREEP HIM).
    He'll lead you on for years, and then leave you randomly.
    Best of luck :)

    Megan Blair
    All guys are the same, eh?

    Meaghan
    Hmm, well I was his girlfriend for two years.
    Two days ago he said I meant the world to him and that he loves me, and there is no other girl for him.
    Yesterday he says he just wants to be friends.
    Don't pop a tire.

    Megan Blair
    Shit, yesterday?
    Seriously?
    I had no idea he had a girlfriend.

    Meaghan
    Of course not.
    He never tells anyone.
    He flirts with anyone to get anything.
    And knows he will always have me if his plans fail.
    But trust me, I'm friends with his good friends.
    And they all say he randomly bails on relationships.

    Megan Blair
    Ugh wow.
    I don't know, like I had no idea at all about you two.
    I'm like, so sorry.

    Meaghan
    It's alright.
    And he asked you to Wonderland Wednesday? (Wonderland = Hugeass themepark in Canada)
    Or is he doing that later?
    We've had these plans forever, and now he's like I wanna bring Megan.
    Come if you want, I don't really mind.

    But did he flirt with you and shit?

    Megan Blair
    We were going tomorrow actually, but I have to cancel anyways. I have an exam Wednesday and my mom is like "oh, you need to stay home/be home REALLY early".
    I think you'd mind anyways, I know I would if I were you.

    (I didn't have the heart to tell her what happened and she probably knew already since she knew who I was)

    Meaghan
    Haha that suckks. and nooo i dont. i can wheel too. lets just see whose tire pops first
    Sent via Facebook Mobile

    Megan Blair
    Ohh okaay

    Meaghan
    Haha just be careful. hes a talker
    Sent via Facebook Mobile

    Megan Blair
    Well I don't even think anything's going to happen soo.

    Meaghan
    Haha justtt wait
    Sent via Facebook Mobile

    Megan Blair
    Lool mmkaaay.

    Meaghan
    :p
    Sent via Facebook Mobile

    Megan Blair
    Uhhm just to let you know, I'm really sorry.
    I had no clue, and this is my fault I know.
    Soo.

    Meaghan
    Noo i think we would have ended it somehow sometime. it may be your fault , but im not blaming you. its all on him
    Sent via Facebook Mobile

    Megan Blair
    Awwh. Well that makes it a little better.
    Would you mind if I asked him about it?

    Meaghan
    Noo i dont really care. its done and he cant erase what he did.
    Sent via Facebook Mobile

    Megan Blair
    Alrighttttt.
    I had like, the same thing happen to me last week.
    Like actually.
    So I know you must hate me.
    And so I'm sorry cause I know how shit this must be for youuu.

    Meaghan
    Yeaah its shitty cause i love him and shit. but its not your fault and i dont hate you. youre really pretty, so i get why he likes you
    Sent via Facebook Mobile

    Megan Blair
    Aw thanks, but you are too... two fucking years? That doesnt make sense how he could just do this so quick after so long. :/

    Yeah I know, but trust me it will get better. You'll find someone who's worth it. :)

    Meaghan
    Haha thanks. and yeaah it doesnt make sense but oh well. sometimes life doesnt make sense. and yeaah no doubt i will

    So I basically almost cried. Exact same thing happened to me. But I didn't have the balls to inbox the girl who did this to me.

    What do I do?
    I do sorta like him, would like to maybe go out with him.
    But look what the fuck he's doing! If I go knowingly through this with him, I'm no better than the fat bitch who did this to me. I already feel like a complete and total asshole, UGHH.
    But he really gets me, and he's fucking awesome.
    So yeah, I'm torn on what to do.
     
  2. Freja

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    lol what an immature jackass. dump him. I wouldn't be with an asshole like that. btw, how can she not care like that if they went out for 2 years? sounds "serious". no, but really. megan honey, go with some REAL MEN!!!! this dude seems all fucked up xD
     
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    What happened with the other lad? o_O

    And gave up half way through, but don't even go there with him. He seems an idiot. Don't waste your time.
     
  4. Mastercjb

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    Lol I have some friends like this. It depends on the guy really, every person is different. Most of my friends flirt around ALOT but when they hve a girl they might flirt but that just how they are, they wont kiss or do anything with anyone but there girl. However they all have one thing in common, girlfriends dont last long with them, they might try but it always ends however within a few months.

    So its up to you, do you think you really know him?
     
  5. Megs

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    Oh I got dumped, actually.


    I'm not sure. D:
    Damn it.
     
  6. Coldness

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    awhh that's sad :(
    I wouldn't go out with him if i were you megs
    This kind of thing might be end up in a heartbreak
     
  7. Mastercjb

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    Its hard to give advice because people in different parts on the world are different. Here in California you date around till you find that one girl, but it might take 100 girls to find that one.
     
  8. Freja

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    Omg yeah, weren't you with this guy from here????
     
  9. Megs

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    Yes but I'm not now so let's drop it entirely. =)
     
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    I'd say it is best not to get involved

    If he would do that to someone he 'loved' so frivolously I would say it is likely that he will do it again

    I don't have any compassion for cheaters/jerks lol
     
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    Well I feel weird giving opposite advice but...

    Of course the other girl's going to tell you that, and yeah it was shit for him to do, but that doesn't mean he's going to do it to you. If you don't go for him, is that going to make anything better? He's not going to take her back, and even if he did it would never be the same. He'd be unhappy, you'd be unhappy, and she'd only be bitterly happy. It sounds like she needs to just get over him and move on.

    That being said, if you're into him, go for it! Have fun, just don't go into it with a bright naive view. Be a little guarded, but still have fun :)
     
  12. Hally

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    you're from saugz? neat.

    *creep*
     
  13. Hally

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    Okay so uh

    Guys are jerks.
    We all are. Trust me.
    I'm a guy.
    I'm a jerk.
    I'm a flirt.
    We all are.

    From my above post, you can see I creeped you on Fb (I would have added, but that'd be weird. You have Stephen and Mooie on fb :p). And by the fact that you kiddies still go to Wonderland (I'm from Northyork myself), you're pretty young.

    Just have fun. Don't let relationships get you down. You're too young to be in a serious relationship. Just have fun. Be stupid. Make out with everyone just for fun. Don't do anything stupid though.

    For you to be truly happy in a relationship, you and the other person both have to be perfectly happy with themselves.
    Which you aren't. I'll make that blanket statement (Judging from, well, the fact that you're still in highschool... and the fact that you're asking for advice on here. No worries htough, I've done it before!) and say that nobody your age is still happy with themself.

    So be young. Be free. Don't let drama get you down. Cut the jerk loose. Or stay friends with him. Relationships are lame.

    Just have fun.
     
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    I second Hally's Post! You're way too young to have so much drama going on lol.
     
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    I have only one piece of advice for fuckers like this. Don't date him, and retreat all feelings for him if you can. It's not late to pull away, and you're probably into the infatuation to begin with, not so much liking him. I've been through all sorts of things, and i've also played people. All I can tell you is that words are easy to fake and feelings are hard to detect. I think you should listen to the signs around you and ask yourself if you want to get played. If the answer is no, then you clearly know what to do.

    This isn't really about age {maturity and mind set only guides you in different directions} and i've learned everything the hard way, so I know more or less about certain things. I'm here for you Meg. You can ask people all you want, to give input, but in the end you're guna have to end up asking yourself.
     
  16. Virre

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    Sorry to be off topic but that reminded me of this:
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    I want that dog.

    Megs, he sounds like a turd. Have fun with him if he's nice to you, but don't expect much or develop feelings for him. He's a bitch omelet.
     
  18. Junior

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    Of course he's awesome Megs.. He thinks he's a playa and stringing all these girls along for one thing and one thing only.

    Thats part of the act... They get what they want. And move on. Sometimes keping multiple on the side just incase they want a round 2/3/4 etc.

    Like everyone else said... Don't go thar girlfriend!

    (at least that explains where Michael went lately ;) You killed him didn't you :p)
     
  19. Megs

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    I think you're right Hally.

    AND WITH THAT SAID, he asked me out yesterday.
    :$
     
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