So there's this guy who's a good friend of mine. Id like to be more than friends with him. He has expressed the same views about me. Now before you say yay, he has sort of an un-girlfriend. They'd be officially dating if she was old enough. He was dating this girl when he professed his feelings for me. Normally this wouldn't be a problem because they both live 4 hours away from me. It hasn't been a problem. Next fall I'm going to college in the town where they are. I want to respect their relationship, but I still want to see my friend. How am I supposed to do this without it being awkward? what if things get even more complicated? Last time we met was when he told me he loved me, and now I have come to realize that he loves her, and has for a while... I don't know if I want to go any further down that path. I don't want to ruin what they've got. So what should I do? :/
I'd say leave him be. If he tells you that he loves you, he shouldn't be dating someone else. Also, love is a really big word. He might have a crush on you, but that's something else. And I'd say that guys like him are the cheating ones. So he's not really something I would go after. So just forget about him...
SMS, mobile, telepathy....there are several number of ways! It may also be the case "she wants to be with him and he feels guilty if he doesn't" . I dunno though! Do what your heart tells you. You don't need our advice. You are the only one thats know what's best for you <3
be a home-wrecker and get him back.. obviously he likes you more.. or so it seems from what you have told us
well.... allow me to give a little more insight into the situation: we met when we were working at a summer camp, and instantly became friends. we probably would have dated then, except his girlfriend (not the one hes with now, someone else) had just broken up with him and he wasn't ready for another relationship. If he had lived closer, we probably would have dated. But we don't.... so he's dating this other girl. I don't know if I could just go in and steal him from her. I don't know if I'd want to. That same thing happened to a friend of mine, and she was absolutely crushed - I don't want to risk doing that to another girl. As far as I can tell, they love each other. I'm pretty darn sure I can just be friends with him. If he suggests we hang out or something, of course I will. He's my friend.... but I won't bring anything up. but jeez, is this the right thing to do? should I be bold enough to pursue this guy, despite the fact that he has a girlfriend? or should I respect their relationship while privately hoping it fails so I can be there for him?
We, men all around the world, have decided that we need women with guts. We aren't in the Middle Ages to wait for men to do all these things! Something bad will happen for sure but you WILL NEVER KNOW IF YOU don't do it! It's as simple as that. Regrets are undue and useless.