So its recently come to my attention that statistically couple that get married under the age of 25 have a 1 in 5 chance of success(statistically). So my debate question is: Well one what are your views on this statistic and two do you think love is necessary for a marriage to work or can two "compatible" people meet have a relationship and the "love" we want will come with said relationship. Discuss PS-I will probably throw my view point out there some time.
The statistics are sad. I think there are three major problems with ALL marriages today. One is celebrity influence, two is money problems, and three, the most important one, is irresponsibility. Two people can take a bullet for each other but these three factors can break the bond of love. Is love necessary for a marriage? I would say yes but people don't know what love is anymore, either. People get married because they were irresponsible and stuff.. people get married for crazy things now a days..
Well first of all, those statistics suck. So we should make up new ones with everyone being married happily for the rest of their lives And for the second question, yes. Except for when you marry some friend so that they can stay in your country ^^ Love between to adults is more like a really close friendship, with some (few) differences. But if you'd ask if marriage was necessary for love, then I'd say no. My brother and his partner are not married, but they're in love and got a wonderful son recently. I think just the term "marriage" makes people bored of it, and the only real reason I see for it, is the legal benefits. Because partners living together don't have the same rights as a married couple. So I just see marriage as a contract. =)
I wonder who comes up with the statistics and I think that like others have said that many things infllence what makes or breaks a relationship. The word "love" is tossed around so much that some people actually believe that being intimate is love. Now my opinion means nothing because I've never been in "love" or been in a relationship so I am looking in as a outsider. I guess that " love" does need to be in a relationship or at least a mutual understanding. But "love" has different meanings for everyone. Some are "gold-diggers" who marry for their "love" of money while others just do as a form of status. I don't think that marriage is required for people who are in "love". Some people are intimidated by the word and actually believe more responsibilty comes with so they don't want to get married or are sometimes forced into marriage and it fails because they never wanted it. I can't really think because I'm still Disorientated (sp) so I can't really think of what else to say..
that statistic is very flawed though...It is taken from America (not saying you guys stay married longer, or get divorced quicker, its just important to see that its an american stat because an American law influences it) and America has a fairly short common law period, I could be off but I believe that common law takes legal (but not full) effect only after 6 months of living together. So technically if you move in with a lover, and move apart after a year that would add to the stat
I think its the pressure on the twenty something year olds to get married after they are done with college and have a job. They are probably just trying to please their family instead of themselves which is more important. Well atleast in my culture this is how it is (indian).
It's well known that arranged marriages usually have a higher rate of success than "love" marriages... although that may be because of the environment and culture where arranged marriages occur, and divorce is more frowned upon. However, I firmly believe that respect and affection are necessary for a marriage to succeed... love is hard to define. I'm clueless about true love but I think that it's the end result of successful marriage rather than the success factor.
I don't believe in statistics... It's the people in the relationship that make it or break it. Personally I think people should move at their own pace. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 22. And people keep asking us when are we going to get married... Personally It pisses me off. Because I'll get married when I'm good and ready... not when everyone else thinks so. People shouldn't rush love or marriage. Thats why so many fail. They rush it...(one of many reasons of corse)
Well, people these days are marrying later. So maybe they're getting wiser, and hopefully it will lead to less divorces.
I think age is not as important as responsibility. There are a lot of 30 year olds out there that are NOT responsible enough to get married, and there are some 20 year olds that are some of the most mature people I've ever met. It really and truly depends on how responsible and committed you are. :\
1 in 5 sounds accurate. 25 years to the rest of your life is a really long time. i can imagine that being really hard to do [...]
i think alot of people get married because they wanna feel loved.... but of course when your under 25 you hadnt really had a chance to meet the right person...unless its your highschool sweetheart then yea
I think the best marriages are with people who are just inherently compatible... not necessarily the ones that are the most "in love." IT's easy to be in love when you're young, but then what happens when the love wears off and you find you don't get along with your new hubby?
Haha, this is pretty true in itself. You get over the initial "OHEMGEE!!!! LOVEEEE" and see all their annoying flaws and habits. Now *true love* is when you get accept and love those flaws and annoying habits just as much as you loved the same thing you initially felt.