Anyways, so here's the thing. Its pretty long so any advice thats not like a one liner(i.e. dump her) would be appreciated. So I live in the Philippines. Manila is my city. The girl I like lives in a city which is 2-3 hours away. Anyways here's the story : So this girl had a boyfriend. Im a guy who likes to flirt just because. So I started to flirt with her but I told her that nothing is going to happen, its more for fun. We usually just flirt on IM's, phones etc. Not really meeting up. So one day, they brokeup coincidentally which was like last January 1st week. I asked her why. She said he cheated in a way(asking a girl out?), I dont really know the whole story. I asked her was that the only reason, she also said that I had a part for her decision. Anyways what happened was,2 weeks ago they hooked up and had sex. I was already courting her that time. So like a gentleman, I sucked up my pride and told her that she gotta choose who is it really. After a day, she said she likes me. So we entered into a mutually exclusive dating status meaning we're not allowed to see anyone else. Now the problem is, she went to training 2 days ago and coincidentally her ex-bf was there. Today, she told me that they went to a motel but nothing happened. Her exact words was "she was powerless" and that she freaked out whenever the guy was trying to kiss her. Although she said, she gave him a few short kisses on cheeks or lips to comfort him. BUT nothing happened(or so she said... but they were at a motel) Now this guy is someone she lived for a year while I only met her for 2 months. So my questions are simple : 1)Do you think it happened?(always curious since it happened before, it can happen again) 2)Stay and try to make things work out or move on? Oh please do tell me why you've said those things. Thank you. Im a bit down right now because of this so its almost valentines, Im just thinking. hell wtf, move on and get new girl. P.S. I know its kinda weird posting this on a neopets trading site but I feel comfortable here in a weird way just because you dont know me :/
It's hard to give advice to somebody like you when we don't know you or the girl you like. She may have not done anything other than what she told you, and she may have been completely honest with you about what happened. But if she gets too comfortable around her ex-boyfriend and sees him somewhat often, then you have to ask yourself what are the chances that she'll do a little more with him each time she sees him? Is it worth it for you to stick it out with her? If she just broke up with a boyfriend that she was dating and living with for a year, and a few weeks later she's dating you, do you really think she's over him and the relationship they had? You've got to confront her about it. Tell her it makes you uncomfortable that she's seen him and they've been together, and that no matter what did or didn't happen you don't like what went on. If she's serious about being in a relationship with you, she will have to convince you that she won't see him anymore, and most definitely won't go anywhere private with him. How much do you, since you said you live 2-3 hours away, trust her to not see him again if she says she won't? I'm tired and about to go to sleep, but that's my two cents for now... And we're not just a Neopets forum! Hell, a lot of us haven't played in years but stick around this site because we've been here for a few years! =]
Hi Love - nice username for the topic. I can't give a lot of advice on this topic, but this is all I know about it. Be completely honest with her and talk to her like a man, and understand if she says she needs a little time to separate herself from her old boyfriend. It might be harder at first, but in the end, you will be glad that you found out the truth. If it doesn't work out, things just weren't meant to be, but if she means that much to you and you mean that much to her, she will tell you and be completely honest with you. It will be that much harder to move on because you will always think 'what if I just told her'. I know it's a cliche, but follow your heart - it's the best thing to do. I hope things work out for you.
It really really sounds to me like she's not over him and she's using you like a rebound. For yourself, you should let her go. Now, I don't know her, but them going to a motel without anything happening is very unlikely in my ears. And to be honest, I wouldn't care even if nothing happened, because she left with him with the intentions of something happening (probably). Even though she might like you very much, she isn't going to be completely devoted to you if she is still in love with this guy. Plus, it sounds weird how they broke up. I would tell her how I feel, otherwise she's just gonna walk all over you.
I think that you should dump her! That is so weird that you are her boyfriend and then she goes and kisses some other guy! That's cheating! You should find a girlfriend who respects you and likes you as much as you like her! Good luck!
It's hard to give advice when I don't personally know the girl or her motives, but she definitely sounds like she's confused about what she wants and from who so maybe just move on. Plenty of fish in the sea. I also am pretty suspect on why she'd even be at a motel with him in the first place? :|