comes with allot of baggage (crazy ex, crazy family, poor credit score, been around the block if ya catch my drift)... Do you leave? Do you stay? Do you take everybody out? What do you do? Just thought I'd ask a somewhat fun question to think about. If this needs to move to the spam section then by all means move it
I think I'm in the situation .. KINDA. Not really exactly the same, but very very close. And I gave him up. It was extremely hard, and now I really wish I didn't. But I figuted it was the best for me, I don't know. Maybe it was, but it stills makes me unhappy. I believe you should give it a shot, which I didn't really do, only half - somehow. And just throw yourself outthere and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, at least you gave it a shot. But it would be very difficult, and I really wasnt in a place where I could handle that kinda stuff so.. It also depends on the person, I mean if it really is the love of your life.. My guy was, but yeah. I had to let him go even though it hurts like hell
I agree with Freja say give it a shot a least. So you don't go wondering what if. At least you tried. But you defiantly need to be prepared. Don't just think everything is gonna be peachy. Its probably gonna take some effort to make it work.
I think it depends on the exact situation, most of the times it's worth trying to stick it out because some of those things will clear up. You also need to realize when enough is enough though because you could spend several years only to find out this isn't what you wanted. I say always go into a relationship figuring the person will not change, because if you just want to be with them after they change you shouldn't be with them in the first place.
Do you know my ex or somet? :lol: As freja says, got to give it a go. Very rarely works out and thats why loves amazing when it does work
if they have all that baggage then they are no longer the person of my dreams. Some of the baggage may be uncontrollable, but others is completely on the person. Those that are the person's fault indicate their personality which would not be in line with the person of my dreams. Thats just my opinion.
Well my current bf has a crazy ex and a poor credit score lol I'm gonna meet his family next month so I can't really say. But I can say that the day him and his ex got divorced she got remarried lol not even to the guy she was cheating on him with. His house is going through foreclosure but I was able to find a realitor who can possibly sell it before the auction date, we found a large townhome to live in. His ex tried to take him to court about a lot of stupid shit that he ended up winning. Theres a whole lot of stuff with him but slowly and surely we're getting it all settled out. If I knew he had all these problems in the beginning then hell no i wouldnt have gotten with him but now that I already love him and want to be with him I want to make things work. In some ways it keeps things interesting, I'm the kind of person that's up to a challenge but it can be very stressful at times too. But i say yes to making it work
Did he tell you about his "issues" early in the relationship or did a while pass by. Didn't you feel a little con-ed that he waited till you feel in love with him?
He himself didn't even know of the issues either. She did all this stuff while he was deployed, he got back, went to see his family in Arizona while he was on his 30 day leave, then he met me and THEN that's when all this stuff started to happen. So no I don't really feel "con-ed" about it. Personally I don't believe men even think that far ahead about things like that. "oh yea i'm gonna tell her all my problems once things start to really kick off with us then she will stay with me for sure" sound's kind of silly. (NO offense guys)
I've know of guys who wait to bring up their "issues" . I think their mentality is if its not serious why let her know.
I personally think that's a screwed up mindset =( it makes it all build up, and instead of the stress of problems adding, they're multiplying. Just from my experience
Ick...I know what you mean. It's really hard to answer that because every person has different views. One of my friends doesn't put up with ANY BULL WHATSOEVER. if she thinks they are crazy, she's outta there. Me...I tend to stick with people. But deep down I feel I have a few issues of my own. So why would it be right for me to push someone away that has issues when I have issues myself. :-/ I try my very best to stay with the person...but I always end up leaving. ;~;
Well on the flip-side if they're thinking how domini syas in a douchebagy way then yeah it is a screwed up mindset but if there are guys who won't bring it up when it's not serious so that you'd actually get to know them as a person before you meet their issues because if you were to be upfront with every person you meet the likely hood of them sticking around is slim to none.
Doesn't everyone come with baggage anyway? We've all got our problems and whatnot. I wouldn't mind, I guess dealing with your significant others problems would just be another way of showing how much you really do care for them. Unless of course I find out the the girl of my dreams happens to be an evil sucubus like on that one South Park episode, nty on that one.
Ehh. I think that there a quite a few people that just don't share about some of the things that go on in their life. They don't have to, and not everyone is blessed with a phenomenal family. I don't really think it's any big deal if they choose to not bring it up, most of the time, they've developed ways of dealing with the baggage in their lives anyway. (I don't really consider it "hiding" it)
love conquers all, enough said but not really, I'll say more anyway If I met the girl of my dreams and she actually returned the feelings, there's no way it would be that ended the relationship, no matter what else she was bringing to the table. For me at least, there's nothing that I wouldn't put up with for love. My ex suffered from mood swings and depression, but it wasn't until she decided that she never wanted to get married and absolutely refused to continue dating me after she decided that, that we broke up. I would have worked a way around that if I could, even though that has always meant a lot to me. But she knew that enough personal info, point is, her past shouldn't be held against her. If she's a great girl now, and she's interested, that is really all that matters.