i have a friend who does maryJ and i really don't want him to anymore. any suggestions on how to get him off the maryJ?
Quit hanging out with them. That's the best way. If they then want to know why you aren't getting together with them anymore, you just let them know that you don't want to be involved with anybody that's using drugs and that you don't support their decision to use them, and if it means that your friendship is at stake, then it is ultimately their fault.
It's the same thing I've done with my friends that use drugs. Until the end of the last summer I hung out with them... then the crew was becoming bigger with people I didn't knew, so I decided to leave it. ('cause also they're trying to experiment always new types of drugs) Now, we are only classmates... and it is sad, 'cause I remember the nights spent together. They don't know precisely why I leave them, but maybe they can imagine it. I'm not able to do new friendships (I'm too much shy) so now I'm almost alone, 'cause they were my best friends. It's a difficult choise to do for you... but the drug is stronger than the friendship (it's my experience)... but you're talking about only one friend... so maybe you can speak with him about his use of drugs... and you can persuade him to stop.
it's a family friend that i've grown up with so i can't just stop hanging out with him i tried to speak to him about it but his answer to it is that he can control it. I need a way to show him that he can't control it without being offensive.
If that's the case, make it a game. Make him a bet, just a friendly bet, that he can't use drugs for 1 month, or else he owes you something. Think of way for you to monitor him and see if he follows through with it. Otherwise, I'm not really sure of how else to go about it. :?
It's pretty simple... he's not going to quit unless he thinks he's got a problem and tries to do something about it himself. My suggestion would be for you to ask him to attend some group or see a counsellor. Addiction is way over many people's head, and by you staying with the person, in effect, you're condoning his behavior. He's not losing anything afterall. It's sad some people have to hit rock bottom before they realize they have a problem. Talk to someone that treats addiction, and get your advice from a professional in this matter. That's the best advice anyone can give you. Good luck... god knows you'll need it!
Unfortuntely, I don't think there is a way to get a friend off drugs. They have to do it themselves. If you stop hanging around with them, it may actually have the opposite effect and make them feel rejected which could lead to heavier drug use. Let them know that you're worried, but don't lecture them on it. You'll only end up pushing them further away. It's a waiting game I'm afraid. No point getting them to see a counsellor or anything else because they will only be doing it to make you happy. Unless they really, honestly want to do something, counselling just won't help
Yes, you have to consider that you may do the opposit effect if you seem too much grinding! 'cause I think that most of young people see the light drugs as a daily normality, and a way to escape from reality. So if you appeare too much grinding he can think that you want limit his freedom.
Try to make him know that he's fuckin his life, also i think that if you stop talking with him or leave him alone, maybe he will realize that his actions are causing trouble with the ppl he cares
I like that idea, try a real friendly way and make it seem like a joke, if you get serious he may take it another way.
Exactly, I mean I know you want to stay best friends but in some cases you just gotta let them go, you could also try hiding their money, flushing any weed they have that you can find, getting him/her a counselor, or talking to his parents, I know you don't want to get him in trouble but in some cases you have to, I mean if you want to save their life!
orrrr if he somehow meets a gurl and falls in love with her and she doesnt like the fact that he uses drugs he may stop for the gurl!
there pretty is no way, my cousin does weed, ive told him to stop, his parents have found his weed and told him to stop, his ex-gf told him to stop(she didnt break up with him over weed) its their own decision and in my personall experiecne there's pretty much nothing u can do...people dont get addicted to smoking weed they get addicted to the feeling, i feeling of being high is so relaxing and that's wut makes it so hard for some people to stop
well...you could always put his head in the toilet...the smell will definately have some effect :lol: :lol: :lol:
Sit down with him and explain how you feel, but tell him u still will be there for them. Most people that do that stuff are going through something you could not understand , if you reject them well it will and could end up messy. Try to get more involed with him and make him go to groups like sports , swimming , actives. Best thing to do with a friend one you really care for is to be there for them. I know with my friends if they got into that this is what I would do because how can you really stop being some ones friend....