Ugh guys why don't we have an advice forum!

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  1. Angelika

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    So there's this guy in my cast that I really hate, but he won't leave me alone. He talks about how he's depressed and wants to die and stuff, but it's all dramatics ugh! I mean, if you were really going to kill yourself...you'd just do it right? Plus, the stuff he freaks out about is the DUMBEST SHIT IN THE WORLD! Like, a girl will ignore him at a bar, and the next day at rehearsal he's suicidal again. So I've tried ignoring him and telling him that I absolutely do not care about anything he says, but it's like he's a Martian that cannot understand what I'm saying.

    So how do I get rid of him? Death is not an option because I can't kill him and I'm positive he won't kill himself either.
     
  2. CoS

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    I would say embarrass him... and i mean badly!!

    He might then get the picture!! Actions speak louder than words ;)
     
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    Stop pretending your mad at him and sleep with him

    Solved :)
     
  4. Angelika

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    Go on...


    Do you ever make sense? Seriously...do you even try to?
     
  5. CoS

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    Where did you say he does all this talkin to you??

    Rehersal for what?
     
  6. Freja

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    He sounds like he wants attention really bad. I'd say to him that I do not care, and that I know he's only looking for attention. If that doesn't help, try screaming in his face that he should leave you the fuck alone. I mean, guys dont understand hints AT all. You must be very clear, otherwise he will continue XD
     
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  8. SoC

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    well it's obvious you slept together, and now you hate him and he's in love with you :)

    *runs away really fast*
     
  9. CoS

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    lol :D

    Uhm just do something to upset him... what part do you and him play??

    And if this subtle method doesnt work go with Freja's advice :p
     
  10. Caitlyn

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    I know this guy sounds like he is annoying... but perhaps he is suicidal? And if he isn't he must be in a horrible position to have to say he is suicidal to get attention. Go to tell someone he is suicidal, get help for him. I don't believe he is... but once you tell someone chances are he will get upset because they might make him go to therapy (which is pretty expensive) And if he IS suicidal, then you probably helped him if you tell.

    It sounds like he is hurt easily, please don't be this insensitive, you never know what people are hiding behind everything. I have a friend who was once suicidal, and I know he is very sensitive to things. He didn't tell the world he was suicidal like this guy, and he never showed his hurt, but I know it was there. people have different ways of showing things.

    I do in this case, doubt he is suicidal, but do tell, it will get him upset when he gets put into therapy and gets the large bill when he isn't even suicidal. He will learn his lesson hopefully and leave you alone.
     
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    These are the words of a wise person :yup: Tell somebody and if he is you help him if not it might not be the bill but the embarrassment that makes him shut up :D

    well done plus rep for coming up with an awesome idea :D
     
  12. Charlie

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    PIMP SLAP HIS ASS BEEAACH
     
  13. Royal

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    Ang, he just is an attention monger. Try to ignore him, or sick him on someone else. If you want to help him though, try to get him involved in something like a youth group. If you are in highschool/college tell him to go to a fun church and youthgroup, so he stops moaning, and makes some friends. If not, tell him to go to the gym or YMCA or something to get active and stop being suicidal.
     
  14. Arkley

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    I'm a guy, and I'd just like to say something about this.

    It's very, very true.

    You can't be subtle with us, you can't give use gentle hints about anything, because we won't get it. If you have a boyfriend and you want to go out for dinner, you can't say "I'd like to go out for dinner", because you'll get the reply "Oh, we should do that some time then". You have to say "TAKE ME OUT TO DINNER OR I'LL HOLD OUT ON YOU FOR A MONTH".

    The same applies to guys that you're not romantically involved with. Wether they're hitting on you or just talking too much, you can't be subtle about it, you have to drive your point into their head like your point is a nail and their head is a particularly dense piece of wood, which judging by the situation you described, seems like a pretty good analogy.

    Supposing for a moment that he actually is suicidal and that you believe him, the best thing you can do is tell someone who can actually do something about it. teacher, counsellor, etc. and then forget about it. He's not your problem.
     
  15. Caitlyn

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    Thanks ^^
     
  16. Angelika

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    Thanks for the advice guys. Telling someone won't matter because everyone already knows he's an emo bitch. Plus he's 23 or something. I mean..I'm not his babysitter. I guess I'll try to be even more straightforward...


    LOL

    Go on...
     
  17. Charlie

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    I'm serious :arf: