What do you say when your friend's friend commited suicide?

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  1. xoffcolor

    xoffcolor Level I

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    Idk what to say. D: My close friend, Allison, just found out that her friend from middle school (Allison is a freshman this year) killed himself. And she's pretty damn depressed. Idk what to do, tho. :( :( :(
     
    #1 xoffcolor, Mar 16, 2010
  2. SoC

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    Nothing much you can say, obv she is going to be upset. You just need to be there and comfort her, and when she's ready to laugh again, be there to cheer her up. Shopping trips, cinema, etc and as bad as it sounds, get her life back to normal.

    Nothing else you can really do :(
     
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  3. xoffcolor

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    Yeah. You're right. :(
    She just recently got into smoking cigs and I've been addicted for a long time and I have been trying to get her to stop that and pot but now it's going crazy. And it's hard to watch her do this to herself.

    EDIT: Ohyeah. And she wore a skirt today just to make it obvious and easier for her to show people the cuts on her leg which she did before this whole suicide thing even happened so her whole depression thing is getting way too much to handle but I also want to be there for her.
     
    #3 xoffcolor, Mar 16, 2010
  4. FastBullet

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    Any details? I think there is more to this. People just don't kill themselves without a reason.
     
    #4 FastBullet, Mar 16, 2010
  5. xoffcolor

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    Nooo idea why he did.
     
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    The reasons for her mate to commit suicide is completely unrelated to how her friend can cope with it, and an XD smiley isn't very appropiate.

    Think before you post. :X:
     
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  7. Freja

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    Aww, stuff like this is always hard to handle. If you havn't tried it, you can't relate to it, which is probably the worst thing for your friend. You have to talk to her, let her tell you how she feels, if she's ready. If people take distance from her, it's hard for her to cope. My grandad comitted suicide, and my dad found him, and he always had a very hard time talking about it - probably because no one ever really did. I mean, you have to sit her down, ask her if she wants some time alone or she needs to talk about it.
    And as SoC said, get her out doing stuff so she isn't sitting alone, thinking about it. Maybe try suggesting some kind of treatment? Like a therapist, if she needs to talk about feelings that aren't easy to talk about.

    I don't know what else to say since I havn't been in the same situation, but sometimes talking about things is very important :/
     
    #7 Freja, Mar 16, 2010
  8. xoffcolor

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    Mmhm. :/ I kinda understand considering I have had two failed attempts at my own suicide, so I can kind of relate to how it affects people. I saw what it did to family.
     
    #8 xoffcolor, Mar 16, 2010